The Power of Listening for work & home

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In 2005 I put myself through around 12 months of counselling which was ultimately about how to listen better in order to be a better husband. I feel like I made profound change. I do, however, feel like I keep falling down in life in the field of listening. In particular with my wife, also with my children, and also in the workplace – where I feel like a listening rockstar, with my team. I find that I need to stop myself, adjust how I am listening and move forward. A big area I had to overcome as a MALE was to stop trying to solve problems – just listen.

I saw the following poem recently, I think it spoke perfectly. The poet is anonymous. I hope you enjoy and learn.

When I ask you to listen to me
and you start giving me advice,
you have not done what I asked.

When I ask you to listen to me
and you begin to tell me why
I shouldn’t feel that way,
you are trampling on my feelings.

When I ask you to listen to me
and you feel you have to do something
to solve my problem,
you have failed me,
strange as that may seem.

Listen! All I ask is that you listen.
Don’t talk or do – just hear me.

Advice is cheap; 20 cents will get
you both Dear Abby and Billy Graham
in the same newspaper.
And I can do for myself; I am not helpless.
Maybe discouraged and faltering,
but not helpless.

When you do something for me that I can
and need to do for myself,
you contribute to my fear and
inadequacy.

But when you accept as a simple fact
that I feel what I feel,
no matter how irrational,
then I can stop trying to convince
you and get about this business
of understanding what’s behind
this irrational feeling.

And when that’s clear, the answers are
obvious and I don’t need advice.
Irrational feelings make sense when
we understand what’s behind them.

Perhaps that’s why prayer works, sometimes,
for some people – because God is mute,
and he doesn’t give advice or try
to fix things.
God just listens and lets you work
it out for yourself.

So please listen, and just hear me.
And if you want to talk, wait a minute
for your turn – and I will listen to you.

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  1. Just lovely honey… I love you. Such a beautiful poem and love the mention of prayer x

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  2. So true. I often find myself doing this. Well It’s never late to change behaviour and tweak our habits to accommodate other peoples desire to be heard

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